Tips to support your teen if they want to quit their job: A 4 step guide

They applied, they trained, they worked…they want to quit. What now? Consider these ideas to support your teen who wants or needs to quit their job. 

Step 1: Weigh options

Help your teen make a pros and cons list about staying or leaving. Talk about what they hoped to gain from the job in the first place—was it money, experience, or something else? Consider whether they’re getting what they expected, or if another job (or no job right now) might be a better fit.

Ask why they want to leave, especially if they initially enjoyed the job. Is the commute too long? Are the hours overwhelming? Keep in mind that quitting may not be the only solution—exploring alternatives together can help them make a more informed decision.

This step is also useful if you’re concerned the job is negatively affecting their sleep, schoolwork, or overall well-being. Rather than insisting they quit, an open conversation can reduce resistance and help them reflect on their priorities. Encourage them to think about their goals now and in the future, and whether this job supports those goals.

Step 2: Support

If your teen decides to move forward with quitting, support them through the process. You can help by:

• Practicing possible scenarios and conversations they might have when resigning
• Discussing other job options and whether they want help searching for something new
• Reviewing their resignation letter
• Talking about whether and how to ask for references

It’s also important to acknowledge the emotions that can come with this decision. Leaving a job isn’t always empowering; your teen may feel:

• Worried about being seen as a quitter
• Ashamed or like they weren’t good enough
• Anxious about letting others down
• Unsure about whether they’re making the right decision
• Nervous about what comes next
• Uneasy about how to actually quit

They may also face pressure from others to stay, which can be difficult. Use this as an opportunity to talk about setting boundaries, recognizing what situations are not acceptable, and learning to advocate for themselves.

Step 3: Validate

Create space for your teen to talk openly about their decision and how they’re feeling. Listen without interrupting and acknowledge their emotions and reasoning.

Let them know that it’s okay to leave a job that isn’t a good fit. Reinforce that their well-being matters more than any job, and remind them of their value and strengths.

Step 4: Prepare to resign

Once the decision is made, help your teen approach the resignation thoughtfully:

• Encourage them not to quit impulsively, as leaving on good terms can help with future references
• Discuss the best way to give notice (in person, email, or letter)
• Think about timing—should they leave immediately or give notice?
• Clarify who they need to inform
• Help them prepare a simple explanation for why they’re leaving

First jobs are learning experiences. Leaving a job responsibly and respectfully, especially when it’s no longer a good fit is an important life skill that will serve your teen well in the future.